Responsible Parenting
by Kay Ellen
I’m 55. One of the most difficult and best decisions I made as a responsible, loving parent was to have an abortion. My husband and I knew we could not support another child and that the responsible choice for our whole family was give our kids everything we could. With both of us working to make ends meet for many years it was a tough time.
We love our kids, they are all grown now and we are proud of them. I’m sorry I had to make that choice, it was a very difficult decision, but I know now, more than ever, that it was the right thing for our entire family.
You are loved and have made responsible decisions. In a flawed world you made the best choices under your personal circumstances. Don’t let the media tell you what is ‘right and wrong’. You are the media, we are the media, calling out to keep choices open for every man, women and family.
I did the same thing. We couldn’t afford another child. It took nearly ten years to get off of welfare the first time around. We were just finally financially getting on our feet. It was the best decision I could have made. That was last Thursday. Over the weekend he let me know he wants a divorce. In taking stock of all the pain this brings me, I realized that I will not be able to afford a home on my own. Neither will he for that matter. I am being forced back into poverty and I have had to give up my child anyway. That hurts. I know that I made the right decision for my family, only now my family is just me and my child. I don’t regret my abortion but I’m devastated that I will be in poverty once more and that I made such a tough decision to avoid this very situation. All of my dreams and plans for the future are gone. I will have to make new ones. I have to find a dirt cheap room to rent and my child will no longer have a room of her own. He still loves me, desires me, just says “that a part of him needs to be single”. I don’t even want him to stay if he doesn’t want to be with me. I just wish that his leaving wouldn’t ruin my life.